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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you don't help your parents, don't be surprised if your kids don't help you.[/quote]

Nope.  If you don't help your *kids*, don't be surprised if your kids don't help you.  Your parents, your kids' grandparents, are entirely different people.
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If your kids don't see you model that behavior in your own life, they won't have it for you later. You at least need to display authentic care and concern for your aging parents. Most of DCUM has nothing but distain for their parents though from what you see on this board.[/quote]
So any kids with no living grandparents will automatically never have compassion for their aging parents? Maybe try making an actual plausible argument if you're going to try and shame people for not being doormats  :roll: [/quote]

Kids will see you ignore your parents and may do same to you b/c you taught them it's ok... :roll: [/quote]

The generational ellipses again, surprise, surprise. [/quote]
Won't be a surprise when your kid(s) treat you exactly the way you did your parents. Good luck![/quote]

Actually no. The fastest way to ensure your adult kids will stay far away is to have them take a constant backseat to demanding grandma and watch their parents being miserable. I would never in a million years want my adult kids to sacrifice their careers, families and happiness to bail me out of my own failings. I really do not understand these selfish crap boomers who are so entitled![/quote]

Actually no, what? This is not what has happened in my extended family (and a large one in which the last of the 90+ yo "greats" in a family of 9 kids). We help each other out. The kids cared for parents, some in the home, some not. We viewed each other as family and that we are expected to help with family. Are they perfect? Absolutely not. But, if you cannot count on family to help you when you need it (and no more is that evident in childhood AND in elderly years), then what are we here for? [/quote]

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