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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure if posting about race related stuff is appropriate here but here goes. I’m Chinese and was raised in the US. DH is as well. I have a lot of Asian friends - nothing against anyone else but I’ve just tended to gravitate towards people with a similar backgrounds and have a certain comfort level with them. It never surprised me that I married someone Chinese. It would’ve seemed odd to me that I mostly hang out with Asians but then marry a non-Asian, if that makes sense?

Anyways, we have kids now and lately my parents have been commenting on how they have various Chinese friends whose kids married white people, and how their kids are so cute (yeah I get it, mixed race kids are cute). They made a comment about how it would’ve interesting if I married someone outside of our race. For some reason their comments really bothered me. Am I somehow inferior since I “settled” for someone of my own ethnicity? Is marrying a white person a gold standard for an Asian? What’s wrong with being proud of who I am and finding someone similar?

I just wanted to vent a little. Curious about others thoughts on this. Anyone have parents like this?[/quote]

I'm ABC and married a white girl. My parents wished the opposite.  Your parents are Chinese. Chinese parents (especially moms) will always criticize something. When my kids were younger (9 and younger) i had them attend Chinese school. After a trip to Taiwan over winter break I said f* it and took them out. Fact of the matter is from a language learning perspective, once-a-week crap wasn't going to do anything. If they want to learn Chinese (or another language), do it in college (or some other strucutred environment) where you're getting instruction every day for almost an hour. Best decision ever. Now we spend those Sundays doing fun things like snowboarding.[/quote]

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