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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/brothers-sisters-strangers/202302/how-siblings-contribute-to-the-good-life?amp[/quote]
Hmm. Good relationships with siblings can help well-being, bad relationships with siblings can hurt well-being. Truly enlightening.[/quote]

I actually found it interesting and relevant to the conversation. For me the take away is that siblings for the sake of siblings is NOT a good reason to have more kids. But that doesn't mean siblings are bad. They could be great. But not automatically so, so you better be ready to parent multiple kids and do the work to foster positive relationships.[/quote]
Did you think that siblings for the sake of siblings WAS a good reason to have more kids before you read the article?
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Of course not, but it has been implied several times on this thread and people have said that giving a child siblings is the "best thing" you can do. This is obviously not true. Siblings are only beneficial if the sibling relationships are good. Otherwise they are a negative in terms of mental health.

So perhaps we should not all be encouraging someone like OP, who does not feel that she wants additional kids, to have them. Maybe OP would be better off having one kid and being the best mom she can be to that one kid, rather than having additional kids out of a sense of obligation (a vague cultural belief that families "need" more than one child) when her expressed desire is to stay with one.[/quote]
Absolutely. I totally agree with all of this (I'd even leave off "perhaps" and "maybe" in the second paragraph). But, I still don't think the article really provides anything new. And "the best thing" folks just keep right on believing despite people continually responding that, sometimes, it isn't. [/quote]

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