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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is so hard about:

1) of course hiring childcare doesn't make you a bad parent

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2) don't share every detail of your childcare arrangement at work [b]because people have different resources and, for example, a night nurse will be viewed by most as a luxury
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3) the opinion of some random coworker who doesn't even have kids is irrelevant here and to be completely disregarded [/quote]

And yet if she rolls up to work in a brand new car or goes to Bali or buys a $4M house in McLean to be in a good school pyramid no one will bat an eye, and on the $4M they’ll say how great it is she’s making and investment in her kid.

So maybe consider why not risking your life and your baby’s life by being sleep deprived is such a “luxury” you shouldn’t mention it to coworkers. Good grief. 
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Uh, if she "rolls up" to work in some super expensive car or does any of those other things and then talks about it extensively at work, people will 100% judge her for failing to recognize that different people have different resources and not everyone can afford to vacation in Bali or spend $4m on a house in McLean.

If you truly believe that not having both a day and night nanny during the postpartum period is "risking the life" of the mother and baby, they I highly suggest you get to work addressing that need for the 99% of the population who cannot afford. Including me, by the way. I had severe PPD and no family help due to a health crisis in my family (cancer) and I didn't have any nannies during maternity leave at all. Am I supposed to sit in the break room and listen to OP drone on about how her night nurse was essential and everyone should have one without rolling my damn eyes at her privileged tone deaf a$$. No thank you.

Get a night nurse, don't get a night nurse. Don't expect people you barely know to fall all over themselves congratulating you on having a significantly more privileged position than the vast majority of mothers in this country. [/quote]

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