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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes I'm envious of older generations that didn't have to deal with social media.  There's nothing more frustrating than meeting a seemingly sweet "girl next door" type only to discover that her Instagram/Tik Tok is full of thirst trapping or attention-seeking behavior.   It seems that social media narcissism is one of these things that my generation simply has to "deal" with.  If a woman is reasonably attractive and under 30, the temptation to seek attention on social media is too strong to resist.

[b]I recently met a woman at a networking event.  [/b]She checks all the boxes but she has 2K+ followers on Instagram.  She posts at least 5 stories per day.  Her posts aren't overly scandalous but she does have a decent number of swimsuit pics.  If she seems okay in person, would the excessive posting and bikini pics keep you from[b] dating her?[/b][/quote]

Why are you hitting on women at networking events? Why are you googling them and stalking their social media?

The red flag here is OP. [/quote]
Please. [b]No fewer than 80% of the women I've gone on first dates with have asked "Do you have FB/IG? I couldn't find you on there."... and those are just the women willing to admit they looked me up.[/b] I've also had random (interested) women at work ask me that out of the blue.

I had a female friend flip out when I didn't text her until the next day, and she admitted to not only scouring SM for me, but also attempting to find my home address, and was contemplating contacting the police for a wellness check. Imagine if a male friend reacted that way to a woman not texting for a day.

It's not unusual to do online research on potential dating prospects after meeting them in-person. Low effort for potentially high reward. Personally, I haven't done that in years, as it lent itself towards depressive and anti-social tendencies, and have instead become good at asking the right questions and reading people instead.[/quote]

The key is women you [I]are on a date with[/I]

OP is looking up random strangers that he meets. The whole cycle of meeting women at a professional event, describing them as "girls next door", looking up their social media, then throwing a fit because they have social media is toxic and bizarre. There's been no indication this woman even wants to date him, and as a woman, if a man I met once looked me up and deemed me a narcissist because I had pictures from a day at the beach, I would be very concerned. Nobody judges a man for posting beach pictures. OP is a massive red flag.

Your friend sounds unhinged and you may want to figure out why you keep friends like that. But again, that is a friend, which is a totally different relationship than a random woman at a conference.
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