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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Once again, the elderly haters are out in force. You people have no idea what your future will be like but you will be old in a wink of an eye.

There is an entire spectrum here. Do nothing and let her live in a government home to letting her move in with you and find her lifestyle. Neither of those options are reasonable. She needs to learn and have some skin in the game. But it can be done with compassion. What is that? I do t know all your details but a financial person (& therapist) can help find that place that works for you.

Honestly, the coldness some of you have towards family, and specifically parents who raised you, is breathtakingly selfish. But I do believe we do have the obligation to care for loving parents as they age. That doesn’t mean giving them what they want 100% or giving at the ruin of your own family. Jesus, people. [/quote]

Just like we allow our 4 yo, 12yo, 16 yo or 25 yo (any age) to live with the consequences of their actions, we would also allow 70+ parents who refuse to learn and have any financial savvy to live with the consequences.  If my 25 yo sells a perfectly fine, paid off vehicle to get a new one they cannot afford, I'm not bailing them out.  They get to live with the consequences of that choice for the future.

The Mom has a history of bad choices and not allowing any help, so it's not up to the OP to drain her family resources, stress her marriage and family over someone who does NOT care about themselves.

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Do you not see the difference between a 25 year old and a 70 year old?[/quote]

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