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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I relate to OP so much.  My mom has gone on record saying about me “oh you will always figure it out so I don’t need to invest in you like I do with your sister”.  About 20 years ago DH tried to have serious conversations either my mom about life planning, affairs, etc.  she said “you only want to talk about serious things gs and it’s not fun like your sister”

Last year we placed my mom in a nursing home after a major illness.  [b]Sister wouldn’t take care of her and it was kind of expected we would.  We did by placing her in a home[/b]. [/quote]

I assume this is the outcome that parents who only support the high-needs kid anticipate? I don’t see how you can leave one kid to fend for themselves and expect to be their responsibility?[/quote]

Yes, I was expected to fend for myself, became successful and now everyone just assumes me and DH will take care of everything because that's what we were "trained" to do.  Not anymore[/quote]

DP - I'm going through the same thing right now, PP.  It's part and parcel of being the hyperfunctional child: we take care of ourselves AND everyone else, too.  I've been taking care of my parents emotionally since I was a kid.  No. More.  They'll get the minimum from me and DH and that's it. [/quote]

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