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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s always the children who are self sufficient and hard working who get nothing while the lazy and unambitious get bailed out constantly. It’s becoming tiresome to watch this happen in my family. I hate my job and want to quit but don’t because I need to pay the bills - like an adult. Lazy sibling chooses their hobby as a career and can’t make ends meet - parents always are giving them money and never push them to work a 9-5 like the rest of us. [/quote]

Not being given something isn’t the same as being punished.  Grow up.[/quote]

That's a lie! Not being given time, love, attention, affection and financial help as a child or adult child IS in fact being "punished."[/quote]

Not really. It's scarcity of resources. The parents are in crisis mode trying to stop the bleeding of the messed up kid. They aren't punishing anyone they just have finite resources. I bet if you quit the job and were homeless they would swoop in but who really wants to live like that just to feel worthy?[/quote]

Doubt it because the family patterns and way of doing things are hard to break. My sister never worked in her life. It was always, "oh, she has it haaaard, she has kids".  Guess who got nothing for having kids and working?[/quote]

This is dumb.  family patterns are entrenched an emeshed. Toxic parents like this are going to decide which kid is the one who needs more help and their perceptions will be immutable. Noone shouldquit their job and stay at home with the hope that their toxic parents will start GAF

So quit and put your hand out and ask for money. See what happens.[/quote][/quote]

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