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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A swat with a belt hard enough to leave a mark. Kid was acting out all day, hitting grandparents’ dog, pushing people, not listening, whining and spouse gave a warning that the next time he would be spanked with a belt. And of course the kid misbehaved again. I don’t believe in physical punishment but spouse felt time outs and taking toys away weren’t working. [/quote]

It sounds like you have raised a kid who feels it’s ok to run wild. The kid pushed your spouse to a breaking point and he broke. I don’t condone using the belt but what have you not done as a parent that allows your child to act that way. If the two of you don’t get control of your kid it will only get worse. [/quote]

Uh. What.

OP “raised” the kid and the kid “pushed your spouse to the breaking point”

WTF is the spouse not responsible for the way the kid behaves after having him for a father for four years but OP is responsible for her spouses behavior? [/quote]

This is a little kid here not. The real issue is that dad let everyone know he was at the breaking point. Mom knew kid wasn’t going to stop. Mom didn’t step in.

During the course of our parenting years lots of parents hit the point where they need a break and other parent needs to remove kid or take over. Should dad have had more patience? Maybe. Should mom have intervened when dad said he was at the end of his rope?  Definitely. And if mom had, kid wouldn’t have been hit.

Not excusing hitting the kid. But if both parents had actually stepped up to the plate and parented, kid wouldn’t not have been hit.

And I do have to say dad gets points for opening letting everyone know he hit the wall. [/quote]

It’s nice you award the abuser points.

Every action the kid did which “pushed” his abuser could equally have been dealt with by the abuser. The spouse doesn’t have more responsibility just because she’s the mother. I have never once heard a father blamed when a woman abuses a kid.[/quote]

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