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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am divorced 16 years into settling. My exH was the best I could do before my fertility window would have shut closed. I think it is attainable for most people to meet a true connection. But the problem you can meet that person at 21 (when not ready, so you screw this up); at 27 (extremely lucky situation), at 36 (could be too late for kids - it would be for me) or at 57 (you would have missed the whole life and would end up childless never married person).

I regret the way my marriage fell apart but don't regret having my son. [b]It was worth settling at 27, having him at 28[/b]. I am still relatively young to try find a true connection[/quote]

This was around my timeline.

I compromised on some major red flags, including anger issues. But my fertility window was closing. It was a tough call. Sometimes I wish I had just waited another few years and been pickier. Other times I’m ok with this outcome — two amazing kids, the career I always wanted, and now some time to see what I really want in terms of a partner.[/quote]

Your fertility window was not closing at 27/28.[/quote]

I'm not the PP, but I had endometriosis and fibroids. Had to undergo several surgeries and an IVF in my 20s to get pregnant. Doctors told me I wouldn't be able to get pregnant after 30. Only 4 cells were harvested per IVF cycle, a disastrous outcome for a 20 yo. And yes, the doctors were right - I only have one child, never succeeded with pregnancy after age 30[/quote]

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