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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I are 13 years apart. We have been together, and very happy, for over 20 years. Our age difference has never been an issue aside from my occasional annoyance with boomer nonsense the past few years. But that is a cultural difference -- a generation one -- not an age one. They aren't exactly the same thing.

We are both very attractive and met at work as we are both lawyers -- if that is "equal footing" for you, whatever that means. [/quote]

She has a large trust fund (and good start to her career) while he is a successful attorney. I mentioned the equal footing because I think some people assume a younger woman is after money and that is not the dynamic here [/quote]

Maybe since she has a large trust fund and a promising career, she's afraid to date men her age because she worries they like her for money rather than for the right reasons. To her, a 38 year old law partner has enough of his own money and career success that she believes he likes her for reasons other than money.  [/quote]

The question is why the dude is dating a 24 yo while he can date early 30s successful women. I think the relationship might work but OPs daughter needs to look out for some red flags. And she’s still too young to be concerned about not finding a good fit among younger men [/quote]
I don’t think it’s much of a mystery why a man would be interested in a younger & wealthier partner [/quote]

Exactly - this is what I'm saying. He's shopping for women like in the meat market: younger, wealthier. I bet he met plenty of decent women before, but he's still shopping for some characteristics that he thinks he "deserves". Men like that never stop shopping, that's my personal experience. Women change with age: there is no guarantee he won't decide to "upgrade" OP's daughter to her 25 years younger version when she's in her 40s. I"ve seen this happen several times. Men like that are narcissists, very focused on their external appearances.

Does he love OP's daughter for who she is?  [/quote]

It's hard for a young, pretty, wealthy woman to weed through men and find someone who loves her for who she is, not for her money, looks or youth.  This is going to be a risk with other men, too.  Hopefully, OP can play a role in helping her daughter discern. [/quote]

OP's daughter can live in a rental apartment and drive a modest car. Dont brag about her job, trust or properties. That would help to weed out men who are transactional. And under "transactional" I mean looking for some superbly specific age/looks characteristics based on the approach of "what he deserves"[/quote]

Though it doesn’t sound like she does. Seems like she is blowing through the trust fund and living a bougie life.  The 38 yr old is probably with her for the money too.  It sounds like he does fine, but isn’t a high earner [/quote]
She has low expenses and saves most of her income. Has not touched the trust. Hesitant to reveal identifying details but we own her place (a 24 y/o def could not afford it) and gifted her a new car (nice but nothing crazy) for graduation in 2022. [/quote]

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