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The short answer is, yes. When my kids got old enough to have playdates, some of their friends remarked on the size of our rambler. They were young enough that the remarks from the kids weren't mean spirited, just genuine surprise. It made an impression on our kids, especially when they saw how some of their friends were living.

We eventually moved up to a bigger house. Not because of that incident, mind you. But my kids are now basically on par with their friends.[/quote]

OP here. Thanks, PP! I was getting quite fed-up with the remarks of all the self-righteous and hypocritical people who do not acknowledge that yes, your kids will be judged by where they live. DH and I would otherwise be perfectly content with living in a condo. FYI, we also drive 8 and 9 y.o. cars that we had bought for 15k. [/quote]

Sure, I acknowledge that it happens, but I teach my children to: 1) realize that people like that are insecure and/or have shallow values, and, 2) to never judge other people by their outside trappings. Just because it happens doesn't mean you need to allow it to affect you and your family. 
Yes, my children have come home sad about comments other children have made about, for example, a clothing item with the "wrong" brand name, but we have discussed the fact that that family has different values than ours. (If it continues, we might talk to the teacher about possible bullying behaviors, but that's a completely different topic! :) )
You are right, you will never get away from people who judge others in that way, but if you believe that that is wrong, than you learn to ignore status conscious people and teach your children to do the same. No, it is not easy, but worth it in the end.

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