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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 15 year old daughter went to a homecoming party at someone's house (parents were home) last night. I picked her and a friend up and both were absolutely wasted. After a rough morning, she said there was a ton of alcohol at the party (seltzers, hard alcohol bottles, etc), and she thinks the parents probably knew (apparently the girl who hosted it threw up an hour into the party and went upstairs to bed!!).

I always stay up until my kid gets home from things like this so that I can see what state she is in. This is the first time she's been obviously drunk. [b]I am wondering if other parents do the same - are you all seeing your kids come home like this? My daughter seems to think I'm being unreasonable in terms of punishment, that everyone else's parents completely know they are getting this drunk, and I'm overly strict[/b].

I think it's more likely parents are just too lazy/tired to stay up and check in on the state of their kids after a big party. There's no way my daughter could have walked home, even though it's just a 10 minute walk, in her state. So I am very glad I stayed up and picked her up.

This is new territory for us.[/quote]

No. Most 15-year olds are not getting drunk. The truth is 15-year-old girls (freshmen/sophomores) who get drunk at parties often end up with a reputation that isn’t great. I know it sounds biased, but the boys aren't viewed as negatively. Your DD might think that it's what all the popular kids are doing, but the type of popular kids who do well in school, are athletes, respected and liked by everyone are not getting drunk at parties, especially at 15. [/quote]

1. you’re sexist
2. You’re opinionated on something you know nothing about 
3. My kids are athletes and also drank in HS. Boys and girls. Two of them went on to play college sports and drank then too. [/quote]

I agree the athletes are the biggest partiers.

I also agree girls carry the weight of same actions differently.  Yes it is sexist and it’s also true.  The person pointing it out isn’t the person to yell at.  It’s not fair but if you’re raising a daughter it’s important to realize there are different factors and risks.[/quote]

My kid went to an after-party this weekend and said all the girls were blasted - or at least acted like it -- while most of the boys were, but there were definitely some boys there who were not because they didn't want to look like idiots and/or they are athletes who consider their bodies their temples (his words!). This was his first alcohol party and he was absolutely shocked at how fall-down drunk all the girls were. And yeah, it was at someone's house whose parents were home...[/quote]

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