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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]do you not have any gay friends? seriously in this day and age? some kids have two dads, some kids have two moms, and some have just a mom, and some have just a dad, etc.

kid has known about this since he was 3? like he isn't an idiot, he know that he has a friend with two moms.[/quote]

My kid had a number of friends with two moms or two dads, including one of his very best friends.  He had been to their house many times, they'd been to our house, they went to a preschool that was conscious about celebrating all kinds of families.

When he was 5, and they'd been BFF's for 2.5 years we had a conversation about the word "gay".  He told me it meant "when two men or two women are 'in love' and kiss and stuff".  He then told me that he didn't know anyone who was gay.  When I said "what about Larla's moms?" he looked at me like I had two heads.   I asked him why he thought they lived together and he said "they have to live with each other, they have the same kid."

It was a very surprising moment to me, because like many people on this thread, I had assumed that having friends who were part of gay families would be enough and my kid would grow up seeing LGBT people and families as equal. But in reality the messages from the world about how romance and romantic love are only for straight couples are strong, and I needed to be clear about counteracting those messages. It turned out fine, he's a nice open minded kid now, but I think it's important to know that it's great for kids to have friends from all kinds of families, but that simply knowing families isn't enough, and conversations, perhaps supported by books etc. . . are also needed. [/quote]

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