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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The private CC office would do their parents justice by steering kids in certain directions with top 20 schools so that the ED choice isn’t a waste. For example, if a kid wants to ED an Ivy, pointing out that there are 8 legacy kids applying early to Harvard would be a good thing to know! Not sure why this kind of advice isn’t given on the regular-even if you ask they don’t seem to want to answer!![/quote]

OP here.  I tried asking CC this and didn't get very far.  I asked if it made sense for my kid to ED to their #1 choice, given where others in the class were EDing.  CC didn't give me any answer and implied that I was nosing into other kids' business (not my intent at all).  Then I said "my reason for asking is just so we could pick another ED if the lane for choice #1 is crowded" and CC implied that I was making decisions on behalf of my child or forcing things on my child (which they HATE---they clearly never want parents talking on behalf of kids--which is difficult when the kid is 17 and barely came to the decision for one school--let alone is thinking through back-up ED choices).

I just feel way out in left field and confused.  [/quote]

Have you spoken to other parents who feel the same? If so, are there many? If not, maybe you need to take a step back and let your kid own this process. [/quote]

Yes, the ones I'm good friends with feel similar.  Then there is the crowd who has their head in the sand, thinks that CC is a bunch of loons, the data lies and is 100% that their 3.5 is going to walk into Princeton.  Then there is the crowd who is pulling in favors from board members or VIPs. Parents are all over the map in terms of their perspective on this entire process.  Applying to college from a "Big3" is....  something.  [/quote]

This sounds like a nightmare and honestly everyone should get some perspective. Your kid has done really well and is completely set up to do well in life, no matter where they go to college.

Personally, I'd take a step back from the crazy and focus on your kid and what they really want and need, not what you think you should be doing.[/quote]

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