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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do you spend time with these people? Are you hoping for an inheritance?[/quote]

OP here: Partly, yes, and you can judge all you want, but we will likely end up with a life-changing amount of money from them in roughly two decades, one that would allow us to be generous with family/friends/community in ways they are not and we can't afford to be. Out of the three siblings, I'm the only one who has put meaningful effort into building a great relationship with my stepmother.

The non-monetary part is that spouse and I barely have family to speak of - spouse has some who went headfirst down the right wing conspiracy rabbit hole and some who are kind of loony and not involved; my siblings are deeply self-absorbed and our relationships are very one-sided; my mother passed away. My parents suck in many ways, but they like our kids, babysit for a couple hours once in a blue moon, and I'm hoping that as our kids get older my parents can be somewhat supportive bonus adults in their lives, particularly my stepmother, who can exhibit surprising moments of thoughtfulness and caring.[/quote]

If they are as rich as you think they are why don’t you ask your father for some money to get out of debt or whatever the issue is.   I don’t know any parents who are in the top 0.01% who don’t take care of their kids even as adults.  Or at the very least they set up trusts for their grandchildren.

Talk honestly with him.  Is he in his 70’s?   If so ask him if he has a HCP and if there is anything you should know about what he would want if he becomes incapacitated.    [/quote]

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