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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are talking about being a size 8 versus a size 12 or 14 and you are seeing a big difference in treatment I actually think you are dealing with "pretty privilege" NOT fat phobia.

OP probably looks a lot better as an 8 than a 12 or 14. This is common. I actually look better as a 6 than a 0 and I get treated better as a 6 (when I have boobs and a butt and some fat in my cheeks). Yes it's related to weight but only insofar as weight influences your appearance. It's really about attractiveness and the fact that more attractive people get treated better. This is always true. And not just for weight. I got treated better after I got my teeth fixed. I get treated better when my hair has been professionally blown out or when I'm wearing professional makeup or nicer better-looking clothes.

Pretty privilege absolutely benefits thinner people more than fatter people as a general rule because of general preferences for thinness (but as I know well -- not TOO thin! Not so thin you start to look older or sick or lose certain curves).

This is different than what actual fat people experience -- the fat phobia where people who are obese are treated as though they have certain qualities regardless of fact (studies have shown that fat people are viewed as less intelligent and lacking in self control compared to thinner people). But that's not a size 8 versus a size 12 thing. That's more like people who are size 18+ versus everyone else.

AND even obese people can experience pretty privilege -- a size 20 who has a beautiful face and whose body is ideally proportioned for their size will still experience pretty privilege while also encountering fat phobia. Whereas a size 20 who has an average face and not ideal proportions will only experience fat phobia.

OP lost her pretty privilege when she gained relatively small amount of weight. It's not because people looked at her and though "oh no she's so fat now" because she wasn't actually fat. They just no longer looked at her and found her especially attractive or pretty.[/quote]

Didn't realize it but this does hit the nail on the head. As a shorter woman whose weight has fluctuated by 45 pounds the last 6 years, you are right.  I never thought of myself as pretty regardless of weight because it is subjective & I am very hard on my looks.  Crediting it to weight was easy because it is numbers.  But, yeah, I am prettier (really that is the only time I am) when I weigh less. With less weight in my face my lips & eyes look better, my short neck looks longer.  [/quote]

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