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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If there’s one thing I’ve learned from parenting, it’s not to wish the years away. Every stage has its annoyances, where you think “I can’t WAIT for them to stop doing (thing that is driving you crazy). Everything will be golden then.”  Eventually they do outgrow (thing that is driving you crazy), but then (new thing that drives you crazy) comes along to replace it.  Just as Thing A gets easier, Thing B rears it head.  There’s never a point where you think, “I’ve arrived.” It’s a never ending game of wack a mole.

For example, I couldn’t wait for my twins to walk so I could stop carrying them everywhere and actually take them places. But then I quickly realized that walking brought a whole new set of issues, from running in two different directions in a busy parking lot to detouring through every.single.mud.puddle. Once we got that under control, riding bikes and getting them out of the house on time became the next challenge. And so on.

All you can do is enjoy each stage as it comes, and trust that the work and love you put in now will pay off later.  Teens can be difficult, but they also can be pretty awesome.
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How old are your twins?[/quote]

They’ll be 13 next month. Still running in different directions!   :D [/quote]

I asked because mine are 17 and seniors. This is the most stressful time for me since the first year, hands down.[/quote]

That must be really challenging, with all the senior year activities x 2. Are they both applying to college?[/quote]

just went through this last year with my twins. Good luck!  My suggestion is go 1000% full force to get everything EA and be done. Sept-Nov were HARD, but the rest of the year was a breeze (well, there were 100x activities) but the college application process was done. [/quote]

That is what we are doing. Dd is generally good about it, but ds absolutely hates me right now. I let him stay home today and told him you have to do some common app stuff. He is resisting, saying why now, why can't I do it later...but he has a very full plate with school and sports and so many seasonal fun activities coming up. Everything is a battle and seemingly always my fault for being annoying. He always has excuses for why later is better, but later this month = Homecoming, a weekend field trip, so many meets...He is a social kid, good student but would rather do anything but college apps, as if his future weren't concerned here. I care more than he does which is aggravating. [/quote]

PP here. We had due dates every Sunday at 8pm (essay draft, essay revisions, draft of activities/honors, common app completion, etc) Not being done by that weeks activities by Sunday at 8p had a consequence. I also made myself available multiple times during the week/weekend to help, but was not helping after 6pm on Sundays.  One of my kids was SO OVER me, but I didn't care.  Everything was done by November 15 (well, a few days before) and the rest of senior year was busy, but fun. (In the end, DS begrudgingly agreed that it was best to have it all done as he watched his friends scramble over winter break.)[/quote]

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