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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Weaponized incompetence. He knows you're going to do it. [/quote]

She didn’t do anything, except come onto an anonymous message board to complain that he completed a task (albeit imperfectly) and pat herself on the back for completing the same task perfectly herself (you know, in her own mind only).[/quote]

Most of us can read an infer that this is just one example- and those of us with similar DHs know the score. In my case it wouldn’t just be pulling this kind of stunt with the birthday party (my exDH probably would have blown it off altogether). It would also be:
- never cooking or grocery shopping 
- never doing any school paperwork 
- never paying any bills or doing anything financial; actively refuse to do financial planning
- no coordination of home repairs or yard work 
- no cleaning except for very discrete tasks when asked by me
- no attention to regular healthcare needs for kids
- no attention to teaching kids basic skills (shoe tying etc)
- no communication/coordination with caregivers and schools
- no childcare except when specifically booked by me (as if they were a babysitter) or if there was a “fun” activity they wanted to do
- not earning more than 50% of the household income (in case you wondered if being a high earner excused this)[/quote]

Holy sh!t.  That’s just terrible and I am sure not exaggerated in the least.  I can only assume that he dropped dead almost immediately after you divorced him.

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All those things listed were communal needs or NEEDS OF OTHERS he was jointly responsible for (kids, home, school).

Isn’t it clever and caring how his own needs are first, and no one else’s, even his own kids’, make his list? [/quote]

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