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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My spouse had a paid sabbatical. He worked a ton on a personal project which sounded iffy to me but actually much later led to a new job. He traveled to see his brother. He played video games. [b]I thought I might feel resentful of his free time[/b] (as it seems you feel you might) but TBH I just continued my routine and because I was working during the day wasn’t too aware of what he was up to.

It’s a sabbatical to refresh him for continued productivity at work, not a house renovation/housework leave. I mean he should contribute all the time but if he’s not contributing enough now I don’t think the pattern will change. I don’t want to be pollyannaish because he sounds annoying but resentment is a hard way to live.[/quote]

Why would anyone feel resentment because of their spouse’s free time? Please explain. Is it jealousy? 
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Yes it’s part jealousy—but mostly it’s the silliness of women’s lib promising that women can “have it all” and really meaning we should want to enter the daily workforce grind of corporate “success” like men, but not really supplying any solution for how to get men to want to take on half of the household and child nurturing and raising duties that we still need to cover. (Newsflash: they typically don’t want to) and so the fact that she is already carrying the weight of all the family stuff plus her job and then watching him sit on his lazy ass all day would be very frustrating and builds resentment.[/quote]

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