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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are many countries that do not have the belief that parents must spend all their free time engaging in organized and structured activities outside the home to be good parents. Lots of kids grow up just fine playing outside and riding bikes and playing make believe etc.

I don’t think he is wrong for not wanting to spend every evening and weekend out doing organized kid sports / activities / extracurricular. Personally I see nothing wrong with kids just playing at home or outside in the yard or a park. Especially if he grew up with different cultural norms. I read the threads on here how parents never eat with their kids and can’t get their elementary school kids to bed before 10 and eat food in the car driving between activities and I would hate that life. I am sure many think I am a horrible parent as we don’t do that and my kids play outside but oh well. I am team DH. I like relaxing. Zero interest in living in a 24/7 hamster wheel where free time or down time is frowned upon.[/quote]

Ok but in which culture is it fine to deprive your child of things that are normal for their peers, even though you can afford it and have time, because you're just too lazy?[/quote]

It isn’t laziness, it is different values. I don’t think it is better for my 6 or 8 year old to be busy and out of the house from 7:00am to 9:00 pm every single day. I don’t think it is better to never eat a meal as a family or to have kids sleep deprived because the sports end so late. I don’t value those things nor do I think those who spend their lives running their children around nonstop are better parents. Nor do I see down time or kids playing at home or entertaining themselves or playing outside as bad and lazy parenting. [/quote]

If only there were a middle ground between having multi-hours long activities every single night of the week and leaving your kids to the tv babysitter/fend for themselves until bedtime.

Most rec sports are one practice a week and one weekend game. Cub scouts involves a few pack or den meetings each month and maybe 2-3 camping trips (you don’t even have to make them all). I guess this is too much for OP’s DH.[/quote]

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