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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is so sad to me that so many people give gifts with such high expectations of what they will get in return. what about teaching your kids that giving a gift isn't about what you get back. Saying no, that thank you you told me verbally wasn't enough, I deserve more appreciation for what I gave you. I want a verbal thank you and a handwritten note mailed to me. Then maybe I will feel as you you truly recognize and appreciate how awesome I am for giving you that gift.

What is so special about a paper and an envelope? If the person expresses thanks and appreciation, why can't that be enough thanks for you? Do you want an email also sent out or a public message posted on facebook about how awesome you are for giving a gift? People need so much ego stroking.

I teach my kids you give with no expectation. It isn't about what you get in return. If the person says thank you, that is great. I expect my kids to say thank you for anything they receive. That is sufficient. [/quote]

You are expressing this from the giver's point of view.  I don't teach my kids to expect anything when they give gifts.  I do not encourage them to seek any expression of their awesomeness in return.

I do however teach them to write thank-you notes for what they receive, just as e.g. we say grace at dinner each night.

I don't care what anyone else does, but in our family, we take the time and effort to write a personal thank-you to people who were thoughtful enough to remember us on special days.  That is what we do.  Grandma is happy to see our children's thank-yous in their own handwriting, and with each thank-you note3, our kids learn to appreciate other people remembering them and taking the time to give them a gift.[/quote]

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