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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why did you share this information with them?[/quote]

Exactly this.  Why do your other 2 kids even know?  My parents occasionally dole out a gift to their kids, but if they are helping someone more on an individual level I am not asking details.  It's their money.  My dad helped my sister with a home renovation.  I have no idea how much money or what they decided to do.  Was it a loan? A gift?  A portion of her future inheritance?  I don't know and I don't care.  Could I dig in and demand details so that I can decide if I should be hurt or not?  I guess.  But what good would that do?  They are adults taking care of their own business.[/quote]
This seems like a healthy attitude.  I’m surprised at the number of adult people who feel entitled to dictate how their parents spend their money.[/quote]

I’m surprised at the number of parents who treat their adult children unevenly and yet still expect the disadvantaged ones to use their limited time off/resources to come home for holidays/equally participate in family vacations[/quote]

I’ve started to politely decline coming home for the holidays or going on family trips abroad because my parents expect me to pay for myself and family in full, which normally would be fine with us, but they do the opposite for my siblings and cover their full expenses. This is just the tip of the iceberg as far an unequal treatment goes.

This is a difficult topic to complain about without sounding entitled and bratty, but it’s pretty normal to feel this way and you shouldn’t be ashamed about it. Only a small percent of the population wouldn’t feel bothered. We are only human and life is expensive, and most of us who make good money on our own didn’t get here without sacrifice. Getting and keeping a high paying job takes a toll on most people.[/quote]

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