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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there are two separate issues here.

One is the medical need to have given you the enemas. No, I don’t think it was abuse, even if there was a better way the implementation could have been handled.

The second is your experience of it and your nmoms dynamic with you. This is the part that I think is more significant and why it is still an issue and a triggering memory. With nmoms they just cannot validate or empathize with an experience of their child’s, especially if that experience might invoke any sense of guilt, shame or reflection of actions on their part. They will actually double down and dump that shame on the child in the form of judgment and condemnation. This makes it really difficult to ever feel understood or seen or supported by the child, even into adulthood. This is where reparenting oneself comes into play. Your mother cannot, because she is incapable of empathy for this situation, hear you and be emotionally available to your experience of this event. I would suggest some inner healing work to soothe the inner child in you that felt traumatized by this experience. [/quote]

This is the most BS answer in this entire DCUM  forum today. The entire forum.  I see you have all the anti- parent buzz words  here,  my favorite being  reparent, lack of empathy, inner child.

This is really sad and disgusting and the ENTIRE reason OP has twisted this into something disgusting. 
Sit down  and just stop. Really really awful answer and I hopd to God you aren't a therapist.  [/quote]

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