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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP: Also, yes, I wonder if she's depressed. She takes Tylenol PM every night so she can sleep. I think she has PTSD from finding my FIL dead in the bed. Tonight DH and I talked about the fact that she probably needs counseling.[/quote]

Yikes. You should probably stop talking. The more you say the worse you sound. [/quote]

The OP is actually correct, this is likely exactly what is happening.[/quote]

Yes but she has zero compassion or concern for these issues. If you believe this to be trie why would you be put out that your MIL was so boring and didn’t want to hike?[/quote]

Because it sounds like op/dh IS trying to get the mil out to do things, and mil refuses. Then SIL is upset that they aren't taking mil out.[/quote]

OP is not trying to meet her elderly MIL half way. She doesn’t to hike, go on exotic vacations, or do other inappropriate activities. Of course SIL is upset because her brother and OP are being selfish. MIL is lame we don’t want to hang out with her! She’s a 79 yr old widow. Get a clue.[/quote]

I have a clue, thanks. OP said the MIL complains of boredom, but won't 'actually' do anything suggested to her. OP/dh can't solve this. SIL wants OP/dh to solve this, but it's not possible-only the MIL can choose what she is going to do.

I won't be rude and say 'get a clue' to you, pp, but....[/quote]

It's like you have never met an elderly person. This is very typical (not for all, but for a lot). I had a billion elderly relatives (large immigrant families - like 9 kids each side, who had many kids, each). They were all so much fun. Social. Extroverted. And they all ended up like the OPs MIL at some point.

The elderly have mobility issues, cognitive issues, anxiety issues. When you're in AL and recognize that you have little time left on earth. It gets difficult. And for the life of me, with each thread on this forum, I do not understand the disdain for the elderly in this country. Or the understanding that one day that will be YOU. [/quote]

You're right, I've NEVER met an elderly person! I'm not from a big immigrant family. Only people from family JUST like yours have ever met an elderly person. Only people with your exact life experience are able to comment on the elderly.[/quote]

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