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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I get exactly what you're saying.  Your parents don't have reasonable expectations on how this would work.  The live 2 hours from the airport!  Of course getting the kids to them for a weekend trip would be difficult.  The fact that they can't noodle through the logistics of this on their own, and instead choose to throw GUILT at you to try to get something they want, are red flags.

I of course don't know them.  If you want your kids to see them more, you'll have to make it happen.  If you feel a bit indifferent, but are feeling defensive because your kids had fun with the other grands, that's a YOU issue.

We tend to gravitate towards those that make it easy for us.  If one set is making it easy and the other set is just complaining, of course you'll lean one way over the other.

I'd prepare a response that's less defensive and more confidant.  "Oh Dad, I'm so glad you'd be willing to watch the kids! That's awesome to know.  Maybe we can plan something for next summer."  But the tit-for-tat nature of the comment could really irk me.

My kids have a difficult grandmother who would say the same thing.  The other grandmother would say "oh I'm so thrilled the kids got to spend time with their Grandmother.  How special".  Guess which one we prefer to spend time with?[/quote]

It’s hilarious that people like you preach that it is very important for you to “advocate” for yourself or for your kids to do the same, but if a parent does this, it is a character flaw.[/quote]

Jealous, passive aggressive comments are not "advocating".[/quote]

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