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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Well, this turned ugly, of course. 
I checked in with my husband and MOTHER because both of them have talked to her. I also don’t demonize my child, if that’s how it appeared. I love her more than anything and am extremely proud of her. I just don’t understand how to communicate with her and that feels painful.

I couldn’t take it and broke down this morning and texted her and told her I was very hurt and scared to lose her. She said she was sorry and didn’t mean to hurt me, had class and could we talk later. I said of course. This doesn’t solve the problem but at least I don’t feel like my heart is being ripped out.

I’m not borderline but do have tendencies, and feeling unsure about where I stand in relationships certainly brings out those feelings. I was in therapy for a long time myself. Just like autism, it is not a bad word but can certainly cause relationship issues.

I’m going to leave now because the really nasty people have come out. Not sure where I’m going with this other than back to therapy to try and see if I can find a healthy way to move forward. [/quote]

Hurt feelings are a choice. Having your heart ripped out is a bit dramatic, and we’ve all been there, but your kid isn’t responsible for fixing your feelings, especially during the very fraught time of freshman year. Talk to your spouse, friends, therapist. [/quote]

Hurt feelings are not a choice. How you respond to your feelings is your choice. Parentifying a college student ain't it tho. [/quote]

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