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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is no easy answer to this OP. Like you I am very ambitious and love my job, [b]chose to prioritize staying in an important role over mommy tracking. The truth is my relationship with my kids (2) suffered, and I’m starting to see the long term impact of that more and more. Yes, I am jealous of friends who mommy tracked and remained more involved and emotionally engaged in their kids lives, at least those I know who did this enjoy closer relationships with their kids even after they went to college. [/b]But I also have to be honest with myself, I would have been miserable to mommy track and feel like I could not fulfill my potential in my work. [/quote]
OP, this is your future.

I didn't want that, so I mommy tracked myself.  I think I could've been a Sr Director at a FAANG by now had I not had kids. But, I did have kids, and I wanted to be there for them.  FWIW, I'm not cut out to be a sahm; I don't like cooking, or doing art, or any little kid stuff.  But, I was present.

I, too, went through a period of barely being there for my kids, and having the nanny basically raise them. I worked too much, even if I got home earlyish to have dinner with the kids, I barely spent any time with them because I went back on my laptop and would have meetings with teams in APAC at 8pm.

I hated my life. I was always so stressed out - either at work or self imposed feeling like I wasn't a good mom.  My one kid had a weird school schedule, and one day, I got my kid late to school because I was not on top of their schedule, and they missed out on something fun. I felt horrible.

My kids are now teens. I went back to work, but as a IC.  I effectively killed my career.  Still, I don't think I regret it that much. I love my kids, and it's wonderful to see them thriving in HS and college.  [/quote]

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