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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not want that.

I want a partner who’s Wes me as a competent adult, not a needy, dependent child who need to be looked after.

If I need something, yes he will go get it, but hover over me and rush around and pat my back and bring me a tissue because I have a cold…that would be a major red flag for me.[/quote]

You don't have to want that. But OP liked it. What's wrong with that??[/quote]

It’s toxic femininity. No one would think it was sweet or lovely or wonderful if a man wanted and liked that. If a man posted about having a cold and his wife sitting up all night to rub his back and hand him his tissues….he would have been blasted, name called, criticized. The reasons it’s acceptable for women and not men is because of the genderized view that women’s are weak, not competent, need a man to look after them, are dependent on others etc. [/quote]

OP. GMAFB with this politicized garbage. You can have a loving supportive partner and still be a strong person.

I am better educated and earn more than he does (and who knows, maybe more than you pp).[/quote]

Your view of loving and supportive is predicated on the fact that you are weak and helpless and he is strong and able. There are many many ways to be a loving and supportive partner without handing tissues to your spouse. Nothing in your scenario demonstrates strength at all in terms of personal characteristics. It demonstrates infantilization, where he cares for you as a helpless being and for you that feels loving and supportive. It feels that way for you because of your views of me and women. If you saw yourself as a competent or strong woman, it wouldn’t feel loving or supportive to be  taken care of as one would care for an infant or young child. [/quote]

DP.  That’s a lot of gobbledegook to just say you are a man who is not going to do hands on caretaking. Different reason than the usual, but same old outcome.[/quote]

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