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You were unnecessarily rude, OP and you hurt this poor woman when she didn't deserve it. There are ways of leaving diplomatically. I promise you, a man excusing himself makes the message that you should post more accurate photos devastatingly clear. No rudeness necessary!

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No, not rude but honest. Liars like Ops date should try living honestly and see if their interpersonal interactions improve.  But OP doesn’t owe kindness and gratitude to someone who deliberately mislead him. If the date was embarrassed maybe she will update her photos to avoid a repeat situation. Much better for everyone.[/quote]

[b]The same effect would have been achieved without the blunt words. If you can be effective without being rude, that's always the way to go. [/b]

I am certain that all of you defending OP would be incredibly hurt if people called you out on all your little foibles and lies. Don't pretend you never lie or make yourself out to be better than you are.

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How could OP have left without saying something about why (unless he lied and just faked an unrelated emergency or something)? [/quote]

"I'm sorry, I'm afraid this isn't going to work out. Have a nice evening."

This is what polite people say, when they discover their date has significantly misrepresented themselves.

The implication is obvious, *but unsaid*, to allow everyone to save face. The date goes home knowing exactly why it didn't work out, but is able to hold their head up while on the way home. It's called diplomacy, and some brutal posters on here, including the OP, really need to develop some.

Don't kid yourselves that you wouldn't be hurt if someone used blunt and embarrassing words to shame you in public. And don't kid yourselves that you haven't had your share of little lies.

Golden rule, etc...

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Liars and tricksters don’t deserve kindness. OP owes that woman no such thing.[/quote]

By your "logic" nobody should be treated kindly. Everyone has lied, and will. You can put some sort of weight system on that, but the reality is that humans lie. All of us. You've told lies, and so have I.

Treat other liars the way you'd want to be treated by someone who discovered your brand of BS, because what goes around comes around.[/quote]

If you lie you deserve the consequences. I don’t worry about this because i don’t lie. This sounds like your lack of morals and values at play. Your parents must be really proud of how you turned out. Just because you do this often doesn’t mean everyone does.[/quote]

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