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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If her appearance is a priority to you, you can't begrudge what she spends on it.  I'd never spend that much but I have grey hair I cut myself, I cut my own fingernails and toenails, and I spend nothing on makeup.  I spend $150/month on moisturizer/skin care because I have super sensitive skin.  I wear comfy clothes and I'm always casually dressed.  I am overweight and don't make time for exercise.

If you want your wife to keep prioritizing her appearance, you can't begrudge her that investment.  And shoot, $100/month for her to occasionally buy a food treat for herself is nothing![/quote]

Her looks are not a priority, and I’ve never given that messaging. I do think she looks great - physique and how she dresses - and I tell her that.  She did not have the expensive barre membership until after kids. She’s never been into working out but she has mentioned being self conscious about the weight gain after kids.

Yes, as some posters pointed out, some of this is me wishing she’d cut back now that our HHI dropped by almost half. If anything it increased with things like the gym, coffee/lunches, frequent purchasing of children’s clothing. I haven’t bothered to research it but I’m pretty sure kids clothing could cost less than what she’s spending. She used to work from home too and rarely got coffee out, etc. So I do wonder how much of this is the full time mom effect. Though I can’t say for sure, since we didn’t track closely before kids.

Being a stay at home mom is tough, I get it. She takes GREAT care of the kids  - cooks nutritional meals for them, always trying to do new activities and outings with them, really on top of all their stuff. But like someone said, I also feel like the clothing packages are a little more frequent compared to when she worked?

There is not much else to cut if we want to save more. We don’t have other large buckets of recurrent monthlies. We could cut the twice a month cleaners and law service. Like I said when we sat down to do this together, my monthly discretionary spending was so low that there is nothing to cut (she wants me to have a gym membership and get haircuts every 3-4 months). [/quote]

Uh your 1 - 2 lunches out weekly????[/quote]

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