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[quote=Anonymous]OP I think you have a really toxic approach to this. You have two issues, from reading your posts:
1) you think your wife’s spending is frivolous or excessive 
2) you think your personal discretionary spending is unbalanced and that’s not fair to you

#1 is a path to ruin. You’re both well within the middle of the curve. It’s not or it shouldn’t be up to you how she prioritizes a manicure within her discretionary budget. It IS up to BOTH of you to come up with a long term financial plan with discretionary budgets that fit with your goals. Make yours the same size to solve your unfairness issue. You can just let it pile up somewhere while you eat tuna sandwiches and cut your hair with a knife or whatever you’re doing that you feel makes you a better person. Take it out and look at it when you’re mad about Barre or whatever. You could turn it into a gold bar for you to rub in your pocket when you see her nails! Or take up a hobby.

As a SAHM, I think arguably her takeout/entertainment budget is going to be a bit higher. It’s hard to come up with activities for little kids all day everyday. A lot is free, but there’s a lot of time to fill. And you can pack snacks/lunch/etc, but you’re also hauling around a lot of stuff all the time and need flexibility.

She needs to go back to work though. This isn’t a good dynamic. That means you need to do 50% of the child and home care outside of 9am-5pm. [/quote]

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