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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We don't know if this is a man or woman but they are a family of FIVE with limited resources.  If these adults are paying for housing, food, entertaimement, health care, car, car payment, insurance, tuition, books, etc. that is a huge chunk of income and at some point they need to put a cap on it.  There is no reason this kid has a car and car payment/insurance if they are not working or internship.  If they want a nicer lifestyle, they need to work part time and pay for it.

I would tell my child no to that lifestyle and they are not buying a car with a car payment they expect us to pay for.  If they need a car for an internship or school, we'll get an older used one or pass down one of ours.

Its OK to say no.  Its ok to teach your child to be responsible financially.

It sounds like the priority has been on this one child and its not sustainable.  The younger ones are probably getting older and the ones told no to things and they are resentful and speaking up.[/quote]

Right?  Someone upthread commented:

[quote=Anonymous]You need to face the fact that you were merely the gravy train for the kid that mattered. He used your pregnancy to entrap you.[/quote]

The facts are messy, but i[b]f he's not paying for any of the shared expenses of himself, his wife, and his two new kids, and all his money is going to his 22-year-old daughter, and, after paying for all such expenses, OP has nothing left over,[/b] then this sums it up.  Is she saving for retirement?  The little kids' 529 plan?  Is she saying no to the little kids because all her money is spent on necessities, and their dad isn't helping? If so, she's the gravy train for the kid that mattered.  What does she even have to lose financially by divorce if he's providing nothing?   [/quote]
You are inferring information that isn't there. OP doesnt say she has no money left over. She says she refuses to pay more than "her share" for expenses. We don't know what her share is, her husband could be covering 90% of household expenses and she just pays for groceries and clothing for the kids and refuses to put another few hundred in to cover the gap. [/quote]

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