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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We moved from a larger house and ever since moving into our current house our basement was used for storage.  I worked out deals with my DW that I would purge and for every trash bag she would reward me (which would be considered a reward for her by most DWs).  After over 8 bags and several years, my DW has never lived up to her side of the deal on any of the huge stuffed contractor trash bags.  Since moving into the house, I have purged enough to put my office, my closet and a lot of new family stuff in the basement.

My DW nags me about the basement, but I never have the free time that she has... Which is another irritation...

Since the Trash bag deal.. We have had several deals where I make progress towards what I commit to and she makes no effort but to complain.  The marriage has other issues that have made me want to end it.. Ironically, I need to clear out the basement before we can end it.  So I have started to find the items of value new homes via eBay and other places that would value the items.  To my DW, all of my stuff is trash and I should just throw it all away.. [b]But it is worth more than $10k if I find the right buyers which I have started to look for...  One annoying thing is that sometimes when I have found people to take some of the items the plan falls through... [/b]

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Just because you paid 10K for it some time ago does not mean that it is worth that now. Just hire a service to haul the whole mess away.[/quote]

lol.. As I have mentioned that I have already purged a lot of my "stuff".  After the 8 large contractor sized trash bags, I shredded several of my old documents and papers that resulted in several contractor sized trash bags full of spreading.  What is left of my "excess" stuff makes a small percentage of what is in the basement.  It would fit in the back of a regular sized SUV.  I have less than 10% of my original stuff that I had when I moved into current house.  The value of several of these items has been increasing over the last 2 years.  I would actually make a profit on some of them.  And I would feel guilty throwing away rare collectables that are not replaceable.  I need to re-inventory my collection and revalue it based on what the current market in actually paying for similar items.  I am realistic and not jaded by shows lime antique roadshow.  If I cannot find a buyer within a realistic timeframe, I will bundle it and give the different bundle to an enthusiast for shipping cost.   Just as i should not jaded in thinking that everyone of my items would get me a featured spot on Antique roadshow.. People should not be jaded in.thinking that everyone with a collection should be featured on an episode of hoarders.

i will admit that the basement looks messier than it needs to be.. But part of that is me being pissed at me wife for how she has been acting.[/quote]

So you want your wife to live with your mess, and then “reward” you when you do the adult thing and get rid of junk that you should not have kept in the first place? How do you “reward” her for all the things she likely does to keep a nice home all while dealing with your 8 contractor bags of stuff? Why didn’t you get rid of it when you moved? I’m sure you can take a day or two off work and get it done. I see why DW is not jumping to “reward” you. Gross.[/quote]

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