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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP  here - thanks for all the comments.  Now I feel guilty about the cap and gown - it was wrinkly and smelly and old and cheapy - but oh well. I hope he doesn't notice.

[b]What is so weird about his stuff is that it is not organized at all.  There will be a pile of random receipts, glue, nails and screws, books, winter gloves, a poster, shoes, etc etc.  All stacked willynilly on a shelf in a completely random way so you couldn't find anything specific anyways.[/b]

I think that is what drives me the most crazy.  If he had everything in organized bins so he could find it, I wouldn't mind so much, but to find CDs scattered here and there drives me nutty.

Last night I asked him why he was keeping all the old VHS players and DVD players when some are broken.  he said I could get rid of some of them but NOT one specific DVD player because "it was one of the first ones they ever made."  I was like - who cares!!! But he insists it will be important one day. what?[/quote]

I dunno about the media players (would
it help to remind him that the Smithsonians already have copies of these in their archives? But if you got to get rid of all but one, that’s a win!), but I do the bolded sometimes. Usually in the context of trying to clean up quickly before company, I dump everything random floating around on the ground floor in a bag/drawer/shelf/open surface in an unused room, and when trying to tackle the organizing later, the fact that it’s all a jumble of things in different categories surrounded by similarly jumbled piles makes it mentally overwhelming to make coherent decisions about where everything goes. If you have a kitchen junk drawer, it’s a similar concept.

The PP who put all the CDs in a box is spot on - this helps SO much. You’re 1000% right that without sorting and labeling (or at least using clear bins so you can immediately see the category of items inside), there’s zero value to keeping the “just in case” stuff bc you won’t be able to find it, access it, or it won’t be in good enough condition to use bc it’s been mashed under a bunch of other stuff.

If it helps at all, during the pandemic I was finally able to “Home Edit” pretty much the entire house and yes they suck as people and the plastic is excessive but the result has changed how we use our house in the best possible way. I started small (my bathroom cabinet), and for me the “merchandising” of items, ie the visually pleasing “after” continues to be extremely rewarding, that dopamine hit that motivates the ADHD brain (remember it is literally a neurological disorder, so it makes sense that the most successful way to tackle a problem might be one that seems weird or overkill to you). Measuring all the spaces to find the perfectly-sized visually-matching containers at the Container Store also allows me to productively indulge my OCD-ness and soothes anxiety. Another thing that really helps me get going is to listen to audiobooks on organizing and decluttering books that speak to me. Dana K White is a personal fave.
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