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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I say it’s a few things. She says that her high school was harder than Yale, which does check out with where she went.

From how she’s talked to me about the situation, I think the academic intensity did take her by storm—as in the way students are laser focused on college compared to maybe other choices and how competitive it is to produce “good work.” She also had a pretty terrible housing situation and doesn’t really like the social scene for her reasons.

I try not to pry too much, unless she asks for guidance, but I do think it’s an academic culture mismatch [/quote]

My DD dropped out of CMU after her freshman year.  She scored 1590 on the SAT, 36 on the ACT, and had 12 AP classes in HS.  Her problem was that once she got to CMU, it was a very competitive/cut throat environment, and she could not handle just being average.  My employer's CEO who graduated from Virginia Tech, had a talk with her and told her that there is no shame in transferring out of CMU.  DD took a gap year, and she is now at VCU majoring in biomedical engineering, and she is very happy there.  She has other things in her life, such as having a bf, [b]time to practice her violin and piano.[/b]  I am very happy for her.  [/quote]

hmm - a tiger mom perchance?[/quote]
dp.. I made my kids practice their piano when they were taking lessons in ES.  I let them quit when they were like 10 because they begged me to; I knew that they would regret it one day.  And I was right.  They are older teens n ow, and they regret quitting. They will sit at the piano once in a while and play something.   My one kid even took up the guitar and said how much they regretted not continuing piano.   Sometimes, parents really do know what's best for their kids and a bit of tiger parenting is warranted.  My DC told me I should've pushed them more (they are now 19). :roll:  
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Kids always blame their parents for quitting music, sports, dance, you name it.  They don’t want to admit to themselves that it was 100% their decision because it was too much work, too hard, and they weren’t great at whatever they quit.  Don’t feel guilty.  Tell her she should have pushed herself more.  [/quote]

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