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So called 'connections' is BS for the most part for normal middle class folks.[/quote]

Exactly [/quote]

If you come from LC/MC, what do you bring to the table that those rich white kids want to hang out with you? It is like a person who is fat, broke and lazy but yet wants to have a beautiful model girlfriend. The real world does not operate that way.

My DS, from a MC family, just finished his first-year at an Ivy school as a recruited athlete and this is what he told me: 1- Wealthy kids wanted to hang out with him because they want to be "cool"; 2- They can tag with him to cool parties and talk to pretty girls that they can't do that on their own; 3) My DS can play guitar and sing, so girls are naturally drawn to him (it also happened in HS), and those wealthy kids want to hang out with DS because they want to be like him.  One of the wealthy kids, whose father is a CEO of a F500 company, flew him to Vail during winter break in a private jet to stay at his parents' vacation home for two weeks and gave him 10K spending money.  He also promises DS that his mother will get DS an internship if DS is his friend during the next four years in college and beyond.  [/quote]

[b]So you need a hook not just to get in these places, but also later to be part of the beneficial 'networking' environments people see there. [/b] :D

FWIW my kid goes to a lower tier private school and has classmates with the same sort of wealth and connected parents. Actually, you can see this at publics too. Lots of the MC athletes hang out with the fraternities (who are kids of donors and legacies and wealthy) etc.  NONE of this dynamic is exclusive to Ivys. [/quote]

Yes, [b]but you can make it "in" if you're exceptionally outgoing, good looking and charismatic[/b]. 
My son's a senior at a top private high school and although we're upper middle class (at best), he moves seamlessly with the popular rung of the super rich.  He's invited to Nantucket and Aspen and Europe with classmates.  They adore him because he's super funny, deprecating, etc and I think most importantly---weirdly confident.  He doesn't feel inferior to anyone.

Now, I'm not sure if any of this is actually to be admired. We (the parents) aren't fans of aiming to be friends with the rich and popular but it's how he's wired. That's another conversation.

I have two other kids who are very different.  
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Agree 💯 - I see this with my own kids. Some are just better at this than others.

Also agree w ppl who say this is life. Good to have your kids socialize and do ECs that involve lots of interpersonal interaction.
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