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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think bullying is a very real and terrible thing- but must less prevalent than people often say. There are examples on this thread where a bullying label is applied when it shouldn't be.

Another example. My DD has a friend, Larlo, who this past year was in 6th grade. His parents say he is bullied and they are considering Catholic school next year.

Here are some situations he has been in lately:

1. On the lunch line, a cool kid will go toward the front of the line to talk to someone and Larlo will start yelling (you can imagine his voice as a young 6th grader), "Hey!! You're cutting! You can't do that! He's cutting!" And then the kid will respond "Shut up F-slur!" Is it horrible? Yeah. This is a not a good kid who understands you don't ever say that. But-- no one else on the line felt the need to say anything.

2. Larlo is called gay often and maybe he is but is not able to deal with it yet. Fine. But he'll cry if someone asks him if he likes a boy or if he is gay. OK, it is what it is. And then he'll say "I am going to the dance with John." Pauses. "Just as friends!!!" Then if he person he is speaking to so much as makes a face Larlo doesn't like, Larlo gets really mad and upset.

So these kinds of incidents keep happening and the parents call it bullying. Will Catholic school be better?[/quote]

[b]That is actually bullying.[/b]

Catholic Church is outwardly very homophobic but no one will call him the f word and it is actually a very welcoming shelter for gay people. Sometimes in a good way and sometimes in a horrific way. [/quote]

PP you quoted. I respect what you are saying but I do not agree. A kid that goes out of his way to interact with known mean kids and call them out for borderline infractions has to take some responsibility. He's also engaging people to consider his sexuality and falling apart when they do.

To call that bullying is an insult to kids that are trying their best not to have issues with anyone and are targeted and harassed.[/quote]

This is bullying and the person who says it is not is likely a bully themselves[/quote]

No. It's just that there are other kids in that school who I really care about who are actually being bullied and I think that's a really sad and unfortunate thing and has been very difficult for the parents to deal with.

But the parents of Larlo who I mentioned in my first post don't want to empower him to do better socially in any way. He doesn't have to take any responsibility for annoying people who have nothing to do with him, or setting people up to say something he finds offensive. I think it's troubling that some of you seem to see yourself in the situation.

Also Larlo and one of the bullies kids I know are very good friends. Yet, Larlo has so awareness or empathy for what's she's going through. Which is just objectively worse. She is being targeted by a bully. Kids with social issues are not always perfect angels. Sometimes such kids need to take responsibility for their actions, and I don't think that's offensive. And yes I think teachers and administration would then be able to take actual bullying more seriously .[/quote]

Targeting the kid in line that might speak is bullying.  It is repetitive and the bully is in power.  [b]The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.[/b]  There is no excuse.[/quote]

What on earth does this mean? My DD is friends with Larlo and is a kind and supportive and defends him constantly. [/quote]

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