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I feel like we're (kid and parent alike) are supposed to love these schools and want to pay $90K for them and my kids can't find one they really like. I very, very, very much feel like we're being sold a product that we're supposed to want to buy because of prestige and name but when we see the product up close it doesn't look great and I feel like a sheep lining up to say "yes sir. let me put my kid through mental/emotional twister for a 5% chance of being admitted to your school and then I will gladly pay you $90K for the honor. Yes sir."  It just feels... gross.  Maybe not gross but yucky.  My kids are like, "well I didn't really like this or that here but I could probably make it work."  They too feel the pressure to LIKE these places.  The Almighty XYZ or ABC school!  It's supposed to be their dream!
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PP back to say that I teach at a selective university, and mental health is a real issue for some kids. Some of them are genuinely thrilled to be there and thrive. Others are only there due to parental or societal pressures. They feel they should aim for certain schools and struggle hard to get in. Then they get there and realize they aren't happy, this was not really their dream. You're wise to realize this now. There are so many colleges out there, so make sure you pick something that actually makes them happy.[/quote]

I really don’t understand the point of this post, OP.

Do you want validation that others feel the same way you do about these unidentified top-tier colleges?

Given the number of people on this board, I think it’s safe to say, YES - many people indeed agree with you (or would agree if they knew what schools you were taking about.)

I also think it’s safe to say, NO - there are many people who disagree with you (or would if you were willing to name names.)

Why? Because different people are different. Some of us value certain characteristics while others don’t care at all about those characteristics but prefer different qualities or aspects of a school.

Opinions are like belly buttons - we all have them. Your distaste for a certain school (or 20 schools) does not make you special. Many people share your opinions, and many do not.

So why not stop worrying about what we think and stay focused on listening to your kids. It’s completely fine if they are unimpressed with schools that other people love. Just move on and keep looking until you/they find other schools they like more. [/quote]

Exactly. [/quote]

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