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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In my case, I don't think I'd ever be attracted to the kind of guy who had the same respect for a sahm wife as he would have for a working wife. Because honestly that means he probably didn't put a whole lot of value in the accomplishments of a working wife. I have accomplished a lot in my career and education. It really is harder and more interesting than baby raising.  [/quote]

This is just straight-out misogynistic.  You assign a high value to paid work* and a low value to caregiving work** because based on what you write, you have bought into the patriarchal notion that women exist to serve their husbands and families, for no pay and at the expense of their own needs and wants, and that paid work is by definition worthy of respect that caregiving work is not.  It's kind of like how a boy dressing like a girl is worthy of contempt and derision, whereas the reverse is not.

Paid work is not [i]per se[/i] more worthy of respect than caregiving work is, just because we have been told so by patriarchal culture.

*[i]work for which people are compensated with money, in the tradition of how men have worked for centuries[/i]
**[i]work for which no monetary compensation is provided, in the tradition of how women have worked for centuries[/i][/quote]

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