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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a non-divorced person, this thread does not comport with my observations.  Generally, the few divorced women I know (because nearly my entire peer network remains married) all traded down in the quality of man with whom they would associate.  Perhaps for those dumb enough to choose beaters and addicts, the options are better after divorce.

[b]One nearly universal outcome is that the children do not benefit. [/b] Divorce is often a selfish act--look at all the "me, me, me" discussion in this thread with nary a peep about the children.  [/quote]

Your “study” is flawed.

Kids benefit from parents who stay married mostly when the parents are high functioning in the first place. When that is not the case, the kids aren’t likely to benefit as much by their parents staying married. A lot of the time, it is worse for them.

Therefore it is hard to draw conclusions about whether it is better for the kids if their parents divorce vs. stay married. You are confusing causation with correlation.

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Look at the divorced parent trying to rationalize their failing by employing the midwit's favorite tool: correlation versus causation.  It's easy to draw conclusions.  Children of divorce do worse in educational attainment that children who lose a parent to death.  Death is a great variable because it tends to be random.  Yes, other factors, especially the genetics you indirectly reference with "high functioning" parents matter more, but divorce is still harmful.

Moral of the story: Don't get divorced if you love your children more than yourself.  If you were selfish, please don't try to rationalize your decision. [/quote]

talk about midwits ….[/quote]

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