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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a non-divorced person, this thread does not comport with my observations.  Generally, the few divorced women I know (because nearly my entire peer network remains married) all traded down in the quality of man with whom they would associate.  Perhaps for those dumb enough to choose beaters and addicts, the options are better after divorce.

One nearly universal outcome is that the children do not benefit.  Divorce is often a selfish act--look at all the "me, me, me" discussion in this thread with nary a peep about the children.  [/quote]

This is spot on in my SES strata- UMC, Old Town. Every single one of my gfs that divorced is doing worse.[/quote]

Define doing worse.[/quote]

The most recent example I can remember divorced years ago.  Physician wife left her physician husband because she wasn't "satsified" and wanted "more."  Husband fought to keep the family together for their two teenage children, but mom could not be convinced.  They divorced.  Dad ends up remarrying a dowdy but personable woman within 18 months.

Mom goes on a bender sleeping with every dude she can find.  Eventually, she settles for a personal trainer because the men she considers to be her peers have zero interest.  The trainer eventually gets tired, so the mom then writes a self-help book.  The vanity and delusion were astounding.  Eventually, she posts pictures of herself and her dog on social media (I'm told--I don't have social media) and her now adult children stay away but have no completely abandoned her.

It's sad.  She dumped her husband and destroyed her family so she could take hiking pictures alone with a dog.  [/quote]

So were you a close confidant of the wife?

Do you know what the dynamics were between her and her ex-dh? Do you know if all is marital bliss with the ex and his new wife? They are happily ever after? Or he just wanted a woman on his arm as a security blanket and to not look like a loser and she just wanted to be married to a doctor?

Is the ex wife more at peace, mentally and emotionally, as a single person than with her ex Dh? Maybe life really is happier with a dog than a man that treats you like less than you deserve to be treated.

I find it interesting that everyone on here thinks men are doing better post divorce simply because they remarried. How is that the defining decision? Marriage is the end all, be all for heterosexual people?

If you are not married, you are automatically labeled as worse off?? What year are we living in people?

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