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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a recipient of negging in a past, I think the goal was to bolster his ego and remain in a position of power. It definitely made me desperate to seek out his approval and attention.

There was already a notable age difference (me-20, him-30) and I thought he was a lot cooler than he actually was. In some ways I enjoyed the tension and the excitement of the ups and downs. Obviously not a healthy dynamic for a real, mature relationship.

In my case, the negging was mostly talking down, condescending, treating me like I was dumb or immature. The age difference added to this whole dynamic.

[b]In retrospect, I think we were both pretty underconfident and insecure people at the time[/b]

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I've fallen for this too, for exactly the reason you cite. He'd make me feel bad, or unworthy, or even mean (I wasn't), and I'd rush in to show him how good and worthy and kind I am so he'd pick me.

Ewww...[/quote]

Isn't this sad that this works on so many young girls? I fell for this too but I wised up to it around 22 or 23. 
I remember when I was 20 a boyfriend said "You would have had the perfect figure back in the 60s. I've never been into curvy girls before but with you I'm trying something new." I weighed 118 pounds! The treatment I put up with as a teen/early 20s makes me cringe.
Another guy told me "I'm pretty much exclusively attracted to Asian girls so you're going to have to be pretty special if you want my interest." And I took that as a challenge.[/quote]

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