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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a strange dynamic to me. You just had a son. So you will one day be the MIL excited to meet her grandchild. I am frankly surprised they have waited almost 3 weeks. I do think asking them to stay in a hotel is reasonable, but if you have room why not have them stay with you and have your husband be in charge of hosting duties? I have 4 children and my out of town in-laws met each of them within a few days of birth. I was grateful to have an extended family who embraced my children/their grandchildren. I think this is just part of the deal and all this boundary talk is why people have such difficult relationships with their in-laws. They are family. Their visit doesn't have to be perfect, but let them in. It truly takes a village.[/quote]

+1 this thread is sad to me. My out of town in-laws (and my own parents/siblings) came within days of all my kids’ births to stay with us. I’m surprised MIL isn’t disappointed she had to wait 3 weeks. Newborns change so much in the first month. [/quote]

My mother saw our DC at about six weeks. Stayed in a hotel. Had the supremely good sense to limit her time in our house and ASK me and DH specifically how best to help when she was in the house. She had our undying gratitude for being so sensitive to the idea that new parents might want some privacy with their baby and with each other. It is not "sad" if people don't see a new baby right away, PP. It's sensible and in no way affects their love for the child, the child's love for them. But it definitely can make the new parents very pleased with those relatives.[/quote]

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