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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]PP. I REALLY appreciate you sharing your experience.

So it sounds like you are able to pretty much completely avoid the AP? There are no joint birthday parties or attending school events together?[/quote]

When the kids were younger when we first separated, we did joint birthday parties but she never came. I put in the divorce agreement that for joint events related to the kids, BOTH parties had to approve all adults on the guest list.  It’s never been an issue.

For the last 3-4 years, since the kids have been teenagers, they haven’t wanted family birthday parties anyway, so it hasn’t come up again.

The last time I ever spoke to her was several years before I learned of the affair, when I knew her as my husband’s admin assistant.  I have seen her at events, like a school football game she might be in the stands with my ex.  But we don’t sit together, and the few times I’ve talked to my ex when she was at the same event she runs off.
  
Don’t get me wrong, it hasn’t been a picnic.  I had to put my foot down hard when she moved into my neighborhood, a few blocks from my house while we were still in marriage counseling.  I put into the divorce agreement that if we ever saw her or her kids at the neighborhood pool or  the kids afterschool program, my ex would pay for a pool pass for us at a pool of my choosing and would cover the cost of putting the kids in a new after school program of my choosing.

Thankfully he got the message and they gave us our space.  [/quote]

You put in the divorce agreement that you both have to approve adult guests? That sounds insane[/quote]

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