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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the problem is that you’ve de facto established that furnishings are her thing.  So she both was annoyed at you overspending on “her” budget and also felt fine spending a ton on things she felt were needed.  I think you should talk to her about the $500 limit and probably also go through Fair Play together to formalize the domains you each take care of and set a budget for them if needed that the person in charge of them gets to spend as they wish but the other person has to clear large purchases in that domain.  So if you do yard stuff, your wife splurge at the nursery unless she talks to you but you can spend $6 on someone to take down a diseased tree without mentioning it to her.[/quote]

This is why she’s upset. You’ve spent “her” furniture budget. It’s not rational, but nesting pregnant women aren’t always rational. I remember wanting that same furniture. We couldn’t afford it. Is talk to her about how the kids’ rooms were more important during the teen years than the baby years.

With the crib conversion kit, it looks like she wants this to be DC1’s permanent furniture. What do you do about DC2+? Do all kids get IKEA when a younger sibling is born? Do all DC get a complete Pottery Barn room? For our family, we bought a nice, pure white dresser for the nursery, and bought everything else used. When each kid aged out of a crib, we bought pure white beds and end tables from another brand. It looks cohesive. White furniture matches with the kids’ favorite colors, which are not what we predicted. Wood tones tend to change every few years. White is the only color you can really buy piecemeal. [/quote]

OP here. I didn’t spend her furniture budget. We already bought the furniture needed for our home. We had plenty of money for other items.

Our tastes are neutral. All nursery furniture is white, and recliner and rug are cream colors.

I’m not sure what we will do if we have a second child. We will likely purchase something similar if we like the furniture my wife bought. [/quote]

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