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[quote=Anonymous]I have a close friend who works in the mental health field.  She is seeing massive amounts of young adults angry at their parents for not being “emotionally supportive” enough.  The lists of grievances run from helicoptering to letting me stop playing softball when I was in middle school even though maybe I would have been great at it, to being too steady in the face of adversity and not feeling their pain acutely enough, etc.  One of her coworkers also told her that her community center’s biggest support group is parents of estranged adult children.  Two couples started it and now there are over 50 people in it.  The next biggest support group has about a dozen members.  This is in an are with a real mix of liberals, moderates, and conservatives.

My point in relaying this is that while we may think we are doing better and that our children would never treat us the way we are treating our “objectively” worse parents, I wouldn’t count on it.  The bar got raised for parenting so “our best” might not be cutting it.  We, for instance, have wound up in therapy for what seemed like some really minor stuff in our view and in the view of a couple of close confidants, but it’s an attempt to grapple with this before our DC is fully independent in the hopes of fending off adult estrangement.  [/quote]
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The great syndrome of UNGRATEFULNESS is what the great majority of us nowadays, or perhaps forever, are unduly harboring.

"The best practices of perfect parenting" is a scammy moving target, influenced solely for the commercial gain of consumerism. They advertise using "experts", we buy them, no questions asked.

Truth doesn't ever change. It you grow up being clothed, cuddled and fed, your parents had loved you. If your parents have had any shreds of concerns for you about your health, growth, learning, thriving, etc., you HAVE been loved.

Be a dignified adult, and stop, just stop unloading your own garbage onto the world, especially people who had dedicated their lives to you the most.

As stop strategizing and fantasizing how we are "better" and how our children definitely see it so. If they are anything like the majority of people, they will not.

Start practicing gratefulness in your mind. Hopefully that cures your hatefulness, and shines lights inspiring your offspring to begin doing the same. We will all be in a better world this way.

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