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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Given the opportunity?

We know a few men who travel [b]unnecessarily often[/b]. There are consultants who travel for work and that is their actual job. Then there are other men who don’t have to travel for their actual job but [b]find conferences or meetings to attend where they don’t necessarily have to attend[/b].

I know my single BIL goes to a lot of these as an excuse to hang out, meet people and network. But for a man with a wife and multiple young kids?[/quote]

Re: the bold: So, OP, how do you know with such assurance that these men travel "unnecessarily often" and that "they don't necessarily have to attend" events?

I'm asking seriously. Were you told this by one of the people who does the actual travel?

Unless you have heard from them that they are intentionally booking conferences and travel they don't have to do, and it's because they want to cheat...why are you assuming that that's what they intend? Is this your own suspicious mind talking here, or these men, themselves?

I'm not saying you're wrong, but you cannot know for sure if they do travel that YOU, from outside, assume is "unnecessary," but which they might feel is important for the same reasons your single BIL travels -- networking. Even "a man with a wife and multiple young kids" might need to ensure he's seen by his company as doing the networking; getting continuing education if it's that type of event; giving a presentation you don't know about, etc.  If your post is based just on your belief that their travel isn't necessary, well, you can't know how important these work events are or aren't, or whether the guys' companies have expectations about their employees being seen at such events. Some bosses really do think their employees should want to go to certain professional events, even if those employees have kids. Oh yeah...and even if those employees are the mothers and not the dads.

Before the usual DCUM "You're a guy, justifying cheating!" nonsense kicks in: I'm a woman, my DH does not travel for his job, but I wouldn't make assumptions about what is necessary or unnecessary for other people's careers, unless they'd directly talked to me about it or I thoroughly understood the details of their job's demands.

Guess my DH should be super suspicious about the four-day weekend I just took to fly to another city for a conference purely for fun. It certainly was unnecessary, so to you, I was looking to cheat, I guess. [/quote]

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