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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]His morning workouts needs to be shortened or stopped and moved to lunchtime. PP is right that the problem is that there’s no compromise here and he’s dictating the rules. That won’t work.

Consider this your first real negotiation in your marriage and remember that it will be a template for most others going forward. If you decide to bend until you break now, that will be your only option going forward.

Talk, negotiate, be a team, or prepare to be adversaries later.

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OP here. He often doesn’t take a lunch or works through it. [b]He’s a CFO and works busy hours.[/b] He used to work 10-11 hour days but shortened it to 8-9 hours since going back.

He says working out is his form of stress relief. He needs it to get through the day. [/quote]

And I’m a subspecialty physician and mom. 12/16/24 hr days were how I lived before baby. Ask me how much of that changed after baby; the answer is all of it. I’m still very successful. DD is 12.

OP you’re a new sleep-deprived mom so I’ll be gentle: I reiterate my advice to work as a team, which means not finding ways to justify your H’s 90 min morning workouts, especially since it seems as if your plan is to return to work. Bottom line is that it’s a new day/plan/life for everyone here. That doesn’t mean your H has to turn into a couch potato. It means you both need to get creative about getting your needs met. I don’t see you advocating for yourself here and frankly that puts you on the fast train to becoming SAHM. Which, if that’s your choice, fantastic. That can be a great life. If it’s not your choice and it becomes the default reality it’s a prison. You’ve seen the threads on this topic.

Start now, slowly, with one baby, finding a middle ground for your family. If you’re asking “am I unreasonable”, the answer is “probably not”. [/quote]

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