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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dave is a horrible person, no doubt about it.

BUT I also despise friends who are ok with covering for their friends when things are good (DH knew about the affair and was ok with not saying a word) but when things go south then all of a sudden they grow a conscience and publically air dirty laundry.

I had an ex who would always bring up stuff I confided in him about when we were fighting. He acted so understanding when we were sharing and being intimate but always used it against me later during an argument. [/quote]

When you do shitty things the reveal of those shitty things is out of your hands.

How about this. Stop doing shitty things.[/quote]

When you have morals in the first place, you tell your friend Dave to come clean to his wife at the initial revelation of the information. You don't sit complicit for years until it suits you to go ballistic very publically. There are no heroes in this story. They are both shit people. [/quote]

Nobody has the responsibility to police all their friends.

If you say a shitty thing privately you might get a shitty response privately, you do it publicly the response is public live with the consequences of YOUR actions. [/quote]

You make no sense at all. Presumably, DH found out that Dave had an affair privately since they are friends. At that point, he should have told Dave that his behavior is despicable and advised him to deal with his marriage issues. I would perhaps distance myself if I found out my friend was behaving so horribly. But if you choose to be Dave's friend when learning about this information you are silently approving of it and you don't get the moral high ground later when you are wronged by Dave in a completely different situation. So either you completely stay out of it or speak up when initially learning about it. [/quote]

Dave lobbed a hand grenade right at DH’s family, he Simply lobbed it back.

If you don’t want s**t to blow up in your face, don’t throw a hand grenades.[/quote]

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